Wednesday, January 6, 2016

It matters what happens between discipline events

There was or is a letter circulating around asking "where you drugged by your parents?"(here is a link to it, I cannot find the original

Here is my response: Yet some people were 'drugged' like that and because of how it was carried out, turned to the other types of drugging in order to cope or block it out. If the child is acknowledged, positively interacted with, spoke to kindly, encouraged and supported, kept safe but also allowed to fall and fail, they have a really good chance of growing up balanced and respectful of other people, personal and community objects/property, ideas and concepts that may not align with their own values.

See, it isn't that people are spanked or 'drugged' to various places that make them upstanding members of society, it is how they are treated overall that makes the difference.

How children are treated between the time outs, the discussions or other violent [spanking] & non-violent parenting discipline measures is what really matters. While being 'drugged' to religious activities or family get togethers doesn't guarantee a well adjusted person, it does give them valuable experience IF those activities themselves are actually uplifting and offer positive interactions.
If children are valued and feel that value (love) from parents and siblings and as a bonus, from their community, then children can grow up without needing to find an escape from adverse events or actions done to us.

Mental illness is a whole different ball game that I won't go into, except to say that a supportive network of friends and family can go a long way to mitigate the negative manifestations of MH issues.